Let’s talk about something that I think we all wrestle with at some point—this nagging little feeling that we’re not doing enough, that we’re not being enough, that somehow, no matter how hard we try, we’re falling short. It’s a feeling that sneaks up on you when you’re scrolling through social media and see someone accomplishing what feels like ten times as much as you. It whispers in your ear when you didn’t tick off every item on your to-do list or when your energy just isn’t there to be the person you want to be that day. It’s relentless, isn’t it? This idea that there’s some magical bar we’re supposed to hit every day to prove we’re good enough, and if we don’t, then what?
But what if I told you that this bar—this thing we’re constantly measuring ourselves against—isn’t real? What if I told you that you are enough, exactly as you are, in every single moment, no matter how much you’re doing, achieving, or becoming? Not “enough” in the sense of just scraping by, but enough in the truest, fullest, most extraordinary sense of the word. Enough because you exist, because you’re here, because you are a person who matters.
I know, I know—it’s easier said than done. We live in a world that loves to measure and compare, a world that tells us that our worth comes from what we do, what we achieve, and how much we can give. It’s no wonder we’ve internalised this idea that we have to meet a certain standard to be worthy. But the truth is, the bar we think we’re chasing is an illusion. It’s not really ours at all—it’s a collection of expectations, pressures, and narratives we’ve absorbed over time. And it’s time to let go of that illusion.
Here’s something important to understand: your “bar” is different every single day. Some days, you wake up feeling energised and capable, ready to take on the world. Other days, just getting out of bed feels like a monumental achievement. That’s not a failure—it’s life. It’s the natural ebb and flow of being human. And those fluctuations aren’t a reflection of your worth; they’re just the result of all the various elements that make up a day. Things like how well you slept, how you’re feeling physically and emotionally, the weight of responsibilities or stress you’re carrying, and even the weather can affect your capacity. These elements aren’t in your control, and they certainly don’t define you. So why do we treat our worth as though it depends on how high we can set our bar each day?
The truth is, this idea of setting our own bar is a myth. We like to think we’re in control of it, that we can decide how much we should accomplish or how much energy we should have on any given day. But the bar isn’t something we set; it’s something that reflects where we are in that moment. And where we are is enough. Even if your bar is lower than you’d like it to be today, even if it feels like you’re barely scraping the surface of what you “should” be doing, you are still enough. You’ve always been enough. That’s the tricky part, isn’t it? The idea that we’re already enough, even when we don’t meet our own expectations. We’ve been taught that being enough is something we have to earn, a badge we get when we’ve done enough, accomplished enough, proven enough. But what if that’s not true? What if being enough isn’t about what we do, but about who we are? What if it’s something we already have, simply because we’re here, we exist?
I think about how often we set these expectations for ourselves—sometimes they’re wildly ambitious, sometimes they’re reasonable, but always, they feel like the measuring stick for our worth. And when we don’t meet them, it’s like we’ve failed ourselves. But those expectations aren’t the same as our worth. They’re just ideas we’ve created, influenced by all the noise around us. The “better” version of ourselves we’re chasing? It’s just another illusion. Because better, as they say, is the enemy of good enough.
Good enough isn’t about settling or giving up; it’s about recognising that where you are, right now, is valid. It’s enough. It’s honouring the effort you’re putting in, even if that effort looks different today than it did yesterday. It’s about understanding that your worth isn’t tied to meeting a checklist or proving something to anyone, even yourself. Your worth is constant. It’s unshakable. And it’s not up for debate. Think about the freedom in that, just for a moment. The idea that you don’t have to earn your place in the world, that you don’t have to prove you’re worthy of love, respect, or kindness. You just are. It’s not about doing more, being more, or chasing some unreachable standard. It’s about knowing that, at your core, you are enough—on the good days, the hard days, and every day in between.
It’s not always easy to believe, especially when we’re surrounded by messages that tell us otherwise. But believing it is where the magic happens. It’s where you start to give yourself grace, to stop chasing perfection, and to see the beauty in where you are right now. It’s where you learn to trust yourself, to honour your needs, and to let go of the pressure to be anything other than who you already are.
So let this be your gentle reminder: you are enough. Not because of what you’ve done or what you will do, but simply because you are. And that truth doesn’t change, no matter where your bar is today. Let’s all commit to exploring what it means to embrace that, to respect our own bar, and to find peace in knowing that we’ve always been enough. Because the world doesn’t need a better version of you; it just needs you, fully present and exactly as you are.
If you are struggling to break free from the struggle that holds you back, if you want to find out more, or if you have any questions, please do not hesitate at all to contact us.
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