You’ve probably heard it before, someone says (usually with a well-meaning laugh) "Oh I do that too, I must have ADHD," or "Well, everyone is a little bit autistic, aren't they." And whilst on the surface these comments might seem harmless or even inclusive, they often leave neurodivergent people feeling unseen, dismissed, or misunderstood. Because what’s being confused here is a common mistake: mixing up shared behaviours with shared processing systems.

Parental alienation is a painful and complex issue, often cloaked in confusion and intense emotion. For anyone who's been on the receiving end of it, it can feel like waking up in a world that no longer makes sense, where the child you love seems to have turned against you without warning and the bond you once shared has been eroded by something you can’t quite name.

You’ve probably seen or played with a 'Chinese finger trap' at some point, those woven tubes that tighten around your fingers the more you try and struggle to pull away. At first, it feels like you’re stuck. Your instinct is to pull harder, to escape. But that only makes it worse. The real solution? You have to gently push inward, move closer to what’s holding you, in order to loosen its grip... Oddly enough, I have always found it a really powerful metaphor for our mental he

From the earliest moments of life, we start absorbing lessons about who we are allowed to be and what makes us “good” or “bad.”... We learn, almost without realising it, that love, acceptance, and even our basic safety can be conditional... It’s exhausting, isn’t it?... The problem with this way of living is that it takes us away from ourselves. When we’re always chasing someone else’s version of "enough," we lose touch with what it actually feels like to be enough.

When we understand lying as a learned coping strategy, rather than just a behavioural problem, it opens up a whole new way to view ourselves and others - with more compassion, curiosity, and care.

When we talk about survival, most of us think of the basics: food, water, shelter. But what’s often overlooked is that, as human beings, we also have emotional needs that are just as crucial to our development and well-being.

...But what’s often missing from that conversation is a deeper look into how much of the neurodivergent experience - especially the parts that feel painful, chaotic, or distressing - may actually be the result of trauma, not simply neurotype.

Many of us don’t have a healthy relationship with anger because, simply put, we were never taught how to. In fact, for a lot of people, the earliest lessons about anger are all about why it’s not okay to have it...

Internalised prejudice is one of those things that can live inside us for years without us even realising it's there. It's quiet, subtle, and often deeply rooted in the way we were taught to see ourselves.

First, let’s be clear - emotional incest is not about sexual abuse. It is, however, a serious form of emotional boundary violation. It happens when a parent leans on their child in a way that isn’t appropriate for the child’s developmental stage.

There are times in life when simply getting through the day feels like the biggest task. When you wake up already exhausted, when your...

There are few positions more painful, confusing, or emotionally exhausting than being a child stuck between two parents at war. For some...

Trauma bonds can be incredibly confusing, painful, and deeply misunderstood. They often disguise themselves as love, loyalty, or care...

To put it simply, enmeshment is when the emotional boundaries between two people, often a parent and a child, become blurred or non-existent

But in reality, identity doesn’t live in a fixed place. It’s not hiding behind a corner... Identity is something we grow into.

You can love someone and still be hurt by them. You can admire someone and still disagree with them. You can be proud of where you came...

Impatience Isn’t Who You Are - It’s What You Were Taught.

At its core, your attachment style is simply the way you relate to others emotionally, especially in close relationships.

Many people with CPTSD experience chronic self-doubt, intense emotional reactions that feel disproportionate, or a persistent feeling of...

We are shaped just as much by our hardships as we are by our moments of joy. If life were only made up of easy, happy experiences, we...