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How Emotional (Covert) Incest Creates Codependency, Guilt, and Identity Confusion
First, let’s be clear - emotional incest is not about sexual abuse. It is, however, a serious form of emotional boundary violation. It happens when a parent leans on their child in a way that isn’t appropriate for the child’s developmental stage.

Joanna Baars
Apr 136 min read
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Signs You’re Stuck in Survival Mode—and How to Shift into Living
There are times in life when simply getting through the day feels like the biggest task. When you wake up already exhausted, when your...

Joanna Baars
Apr 85 min read
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When Parents Weaponise Their Kids: The Hidden Damage of Conflict and Even Divorce
There are few positions more painful, confusing, or emotionally exhausting than being a child stuck between two parents at war. For some...

Joanna Baars
Apr 86 min read
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Trauma Bonding Explained: Why You Can’t Let Go (Even When It Hurts)
Trauma bonds can be incredibly confusing, painful, and deeply misunderstood. They often disguise themselves as love, loyalty, or care...

Joanna Baars
Apr 88 min read
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Enmeshment Trauma: How It Shapes Identity, Relationships, and Mental Health
To put it simply, enmeshment is when the emotional boundaries between two people, often a parent and a child, become blurred or non-existent

Joanna Baars
Apr 39 min read
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You Haven’t Lost Yourself: How Identity Is Grown, Not Found
But in reality, identity doesn’t live in a fixed place. It’s not hiding behind a corner... Identity is something we grow into.

Joanna Baars
Apr 16 min read
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Emotional Duality Explained: You’re Not Ungrateful, Because Love Doesn't Cancel Out Pain
You can love someone and still be hurt by them. You can admire someone and still disagree with them. You can be proud of where you came...

Joanna Baars
Apr 15 min read
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Unlearning Impatience: How Childhood Conditioning Impacts Self-Worth and Self-Esteem
Impatience Isn’t Who You Are - It’s What You Were Taught.

Joanna Baars
Mar 2412 min read
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Do I Have an Insecure Attachment Style? Avoidant vs. Disorganised Explained
At its core, your attachment style is simply the way you relate to others emotionally, especially in close relationships.

Joanna Baars
Mar 2413 min read
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Signs You May Have CPTSD (Even If You Don’t Realise It)
Many people with CPTSD experience chronic self-doubt, intense emotional reactions that feel disproportionate, or a persistent feeling of...

Joanna Baars
Mar 1916 min read
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The Lightness and Darkness Within Us: Why Both Are Essential for Growth
We are shaped just as much by our hardships as we are by our moments of joy. If life were only made up of easy, happy experiences, we...

Joanna Baars
Mar 188 min read
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Why Grief Feels So Lonely in the Western World—and How We Can Change That
In much of the Western world, the grieving are often left to fend for themselves. They are given a short window to express their sadness...

Joanna Baars
Mar 1712 min read
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Neurodivergent Communication Explained: Why It’s Time for Neurotypicals to Meet Them Halfway
What if the real issue isn’t that neurodivergent people struggle to communicate, but that neurotypicals struggle to understand them?

Joanna Baars
Mar 79 min read
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When Love Feels Like Control: Why It’s Not Caring, It’s Harmful
Control doesn’t always look like what we expect. When people hear the phrase emotional abuse, they might picture something like insults etc.

Joanna Baars
Mar 79 min read
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Nobody Talks About How Hard It Is to Be a Teen - So Let’s Talk About It
Growing up is no joke. Being a pre-teen or teenager? That’s a whole different level of tough. But a lot of adults don’t seem to remember.

Joanna Baars
Mar 78 min read
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Why You Can't Be Responsible for Other People's Feelings or Behaviour
Many of us are taught that we play a role in other people’s emotions. But in reality, you are not responsible for anyone else’s feelings...

Joanna Baars
Mar 57 min read
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Red Light... Green Light: How to Navigate Life by Listening to Your Feelings
What if, instead of being something we suppress to maintain peace, emotions are actually our own personal internal compass, guiding us?

Joanna Baars
Mar 58 min read
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Healing Co-dependency: The Journey to Emotional Independence
One of the most difficult but necessary steps in overcoming co-dependency is shifting the focus from 'them' to 'you'.

Joanna Baars
Feb 2114 min read
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You Don’t Have to Be Perfect, You Just Have to Be Human
Who decided that being human was something we needed to overcome? So, what if we stopped trying so hard to get it "right"?

Joanna Baars
Feb 208 min read
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Being Wanted vs. Being Needed: Connection vs. Obligation
Most of us, at some point in our lives, have mistaken being needed for being loved... But being needed is not the same as being cherished.

Joanna Baars
Feb 811 min read
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