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Enmeshment Trauma: How It Shapes Identity, Relationships, and Mental Health

To put it simply, enmeshment is when the emotional boundaries between two people, often a parent and a child, become blurred or non-existent

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You Haven’t Lost Yourself: How Identity Is Grown, Not Found

But in reality, identity doesn’t live in a fixed place. It’s not hiding behind a corner... Identity is something we grow into.

Joanna Baars

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Emotional Duality Explained: You’re Not Ungrateful, Because Love Doesn't Cancel Out Pain

You can love someone and still be hurt by them. You can admire someone and still disagree with them. You can be proud of where you came...

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Unlearning Impatience: How Childhood Conditioning Impacts Self-Worth and Self-Esteem

Impatience Isn’t Who You Are - It’s What You Were Taught.

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Do I Have an Insecure Attachment Style? Avoidant vs. Disorganised Explained

At its core, your attachment style is simply the way you relate to others emotionally, especially in close relationships.

Joanna Baars

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Signs You May Have CPTSD (Even If You Don’t Realise It)

Many people with CPTSD experience chronic self-doubt, intense emotional reactions that feel disproportionate, or a persistent feeling of...

Joanna Baars

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The Lightness and Darkness Within Us: Why Both Are Essential for Growth

We are shaped just as much by our hardships as we are by our moments of joy. If life were only made up of easy, happy experiences, we...

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Why Grief Feels So Lonely in the Western World—and How We Can Change That

In much of the Western world, the grieving are often left to fend for themselves. They are given a short window to express their sadness...

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What if the real issue isn’t that neurodivergent people struggle to communicate, but that neurotypicals struggle to understand them?

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When Love Feels Like Control: Why It’s Not Caring, It’s Harmful

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Nobody Talks About How Hard It Is to Be a Teen - So Let’s Talk About It

Growing up is no joke. Being a pre-teen or teenager? That’s a whole different level of tough. But a lot of adults don’t seem to remember.

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Why You Can't Be Responsible for Other People's Feelings or Behaviour

Many of us are taught that we play a role in other people’s emotions. But in reality, you are not responsible for anyone else’s feelings...

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Red Light... Green Light: How to Navigate Life by Listening to Your Feelings

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One of the most difficult but necessary steps in overcoming co-dependency is shifting the focus from 'them' to 'you'.

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Who decided that being human was something we needed to overcome? So, what if we stopped trying so hard to get it "right"?

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Being Wanted vs. Being Needed: Connection vs. Obligation

Most of us, at some point in our lives, have mistaken being needed for being loved... But being needed is not the same as being cherished.

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Why You Always Have a Choice (Even When It Feels Like You Don’t)

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Trusting others doesn’t just depend on their reliability or actions. It also depends on how much we trust ourselves.

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This type of loneliness isn’t about how many people surround you; it’s about whether you feel emotionally connected, understood, and valued.

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Enmeshment Trauma: How It Shapes Identity, Relationships, and Mental Health

You Haven’t Lost Yourself: How Identity Is Grown, Not Found

Emotional Duality Explained: You’re Not Ungrateful, Because Love Doesn't Cancel Out Pain

Unlearning Impatience: How Childhood Conditioning Impacts Self-Worth and Self-Esteem

Do I Have an Insecure Attachment Style? Avoidant vs. Disorganised Explained

Signs You May Have CPTSD (Even If You Don’t Realise It)

The Lightness and Darkness Within Us: Why Both Are Essential for Growth

Why Grief Feels So Lonely in the Western World—and How We Can Change That

Neurodivergent Communication Explained: Why It’s Time for Neurotypicals to Meet Them Halfway

When Love Feels Like Control: Why It’s Not Caring, It’s Harmful

Nobody Talks About How Hard It Is to Be a Teen - So Let’s Talk About It

Why You Can't Be Responsible for Other People's Feelings or Behaviour

Red Light... Green Light: How to Navigate Life by Listening to Your Feelings

Healing Co-dependency: The Journey to Emotional Independence

You Don’t Have to Be Perfect, You Just Have to Be Human

Being Wanted vs. Being Needed: Connection vs. Obligation

Why You Always Have a Choice (Even When It Feels Like You Don’t)

Signs You’re Dealing with an Emotionally Immature Parent or Parents

Why Trusting Yourself is the Key to Trusting Others

Why We Feel Lonely Even in a Room Full of People: The Science of Connection

Counselling, Therapy and Psychotherapy, Mental Health Blog,

Modern Therapy for Modern Lives

I am I feel Therapy

07761 842 772

9am-10pm, Mon-Fri

info@iamifeel.co.uk

Enmeshment Trauma: How It Shapes Identity, Relationships, and Mental Health

You Haven’t Lost Yourself: How Identity Is Grown, Not Found

Emotional Duality Explained: You’re Not Ungrateful, Because Love Doesn't Cancel Out Pain

Unlearning Impatience: How Childhood Conditioning Impacts Self-Worth and Self-Esteem

Do I Have an Insecure Attachment Style? Avoidant vs. Disorganised Explained

Signs You May Have CPTSD (Even If You Don’t Realise It)

The Lightness and Darkness Within Us: Why Both Are Essential for Growth

Why Grief Feels So Lonely in the Western World—and How We Can Change That

Neurodivergent Communication Explained: Why It’s Time for Neurotypicals to Meet Them Halfway

When Love Feels Like Control: Why It’s Not Caring, It’s Harmful

Nobody Talks About How Hard It Is to Be a Teen - So Let’s Talk About It

Why You Can't Be Responsible for Other People's Feelings or Behaviour

Red Light... Green Light: How to Navigate Life by Listening to Your Feelings

Healing Co-dependency: The Journey to Emotional Independence

You Don’t Have to Be Perfect, You Just Have to Be Human

Being Wanted vs. Being Needed: Connection vs. Obligation

Why You Always Have a Choice (Even When It Feels Like You Don’t)

Signs You’re Dealing with an Emotionally Immature Parent or Parents

Why Trusting Yourself is the Key to Trusting Others

Why We Feel Lonely Even in a Room Full of People: The Science of Connection

Counselling, Therapy and Psychotherapy, Mental Health Blog,

Modern Therapy
for Modern Lives

I am
I feel
Therapy