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Trauma Bonding Explained: Why You Can’t Let Go (Even When It Hurts)
Trauma bonds can be incredibly confusing, painful, and deeply misunderstood. They often disguise themselves as love, loyalty, or care...
Joanna Baars
Apr 8, 20258 min read
Enmeshment Trauma: How It Shapes Identity, Relationships, and Mental Health
To put it simply, enmeshment is when the emotional boundaries between two people, often a parent and a child, become blurred or non-existent
Joanna Baars
Apr 3, 20259 min read
Emotional Duality Explained: You’re Not Ungrateful, Because Love Doesn't Cancel Out Pain
You can love someone and still be hurt by them. You can admire someone and still disagree with them. You can be proud of where you came...
Joanna Baars
Apr 1, 20255 min read
Unlearning Impatience: How Childhood Conditioning Impacts Self-Worth and Self-Esteem
Impatience Isn’t Who You Are - It’s What You Were Taught.
Joanna Baars
Mar 24, 202512 min read
Do I Have an Insecure Attachment Style? Avoidant vs. Disorganised Explained
At its core, your attachment style is simply the way you relate to others emotionally, especially in close relationships.
Joanna Baars
Mar 24, 202513 min read
Signs You May Have CPTSD (Even If You Don’t Realise It)
Many people with CPTSD experience chronic self-doubt, intense emotional reactions that feel disproportionate, or a persistent feeling of...
Joanna Baars
Mar 19, 202516 min read
The Lightness and Darkness Within Us: Why Both Are Essential for Growth
We are shaped just as much by our hardships as we are by our moments of joy. If life were only made up of easy, happy experiences, we...
Joanna Baars
Mar 18, 20258 min read
Why Grief Feels So Lonely in the Western World—and How We Can Change That
In much of the Western world, the grieving are often left to fend for themselves. They are given a short window to express their sadness...
Joanna Baars
Mar 17, 202512 min read
Neurodivergent Communication Explained: Why It’s Time for Neurotypicals to Meet Them Halfway
What if the real issue isn’t that neurodivergent people struggle to communicate, but that neurotypicals struggle to understand them?
Joanna Baars
Mar 7, 20259 min read
When Love Feels Like Control: Why It’s Not Caring, It’s Harmful
Control doesn’t always look like what we expect. When people hear the phrase emotional abuse, they might picture something like insults etc.
Joanna Baars
Mar 7, 20259 min read
Nobody Talks About How Hard It Is to Be a Teen - So Let’s Talk About It
Growing up is no joke. Being a pre-teen or teenager? That’s a whole different level of tough. But a lot of adults don’t seem to remember.
Joanna Baars
Mar 7, 20258 min read
Why You Can't Be Responsible for Other People's Feelings or Behaviour
Many of us are taught that we play a role in other people’s emotions. But in reality, you are not responsible for anyone else’s feelings...
Joanna Baars
Mar 5, 20257 min read
Red Light... Green Light: How to Navigate Life by Listening to Your Feelings
What if, instead of being something we suppress to maintain peace, emotions are actually our own personal internal compass, guiding us?
Joanna Baars
Mar 5, 20258 min read
Healing Co-dependency: The Journey to Emotional Independence
One of the most difficult but necessary steps in overcoming co-dependency is shifting the focus from 'them' to 'you'.
Joanna Baars
Feb 21, 202514 min read
You Don’t Have to Be Perfect, You Just Have to Be Human
Who decided that being human was something we needed to overcome? So, what if we stopped trying so hard to get it "right"?
Joanna Baars
Feb 20, 20258 min read
Being Wanted vs. Being Needed: Connection vs. Obligation
Most of us, at some point in our lives, have mistaken being needed for being loved... But being needed is not the same as being cherished.
Joanna Baars
Feb 8, 202511 min read
Why You Always Have a Choice (Even When It Feels Like You Don’t)
The illusion of choice doesn’t just shape the paths we take—it shapes how we see ourselves. It gets under our skin, embedding itself...
Joanna Baars
Feb 5, 202511 min read
Signs You’re Dealing with an Emotionally Immature Parent or Parents
Unresolved experiences shape how emotionally immature parents navigate their own lives—and by extension, how they parented you!
Joanna Baars
Dec 8, 20245 min read
Why Trusting Yourself is the Key to Trusting Others
Trusting others doesn’t just depend on their reliability or actions. It also depends on how much we trust ourselves.
Joanna Baars
Dec 8, 20245 min read
Why We Feel Lonely Even in a Room Full of People: The Science of Connection
This type of loneliness isn’t about how many people surround you; it’s about whether you feel emotionally connected, understood, and valued.
Joanna Baars
Dec 7, 20244 min read
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